Communication Advice for Newly Engaged Couple, Michael and Cody

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Communication Advice for Newly Engaged Couple, Michael and Cody
Carla Smith
COM200: Interpersonal Communication
January 16, 2012

Communication Advice for Newly Engaged Couple Michael and Cody

Dear Michael and Cody, Congratulations on your recent engagement. A marriage is a very special thing shared between two people that truly love each other, and are ready to spend the rest of their lives with that person. I hope you two are ready for a lot of hard work. That may sound scary, but that is what it takes to make a marriage last. If you are not willing to be fully committed to each other, completely dedicated to one another, and ready for the challenges up ahead, then you are not ready to get married. I am
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The next barrier to good communication is placating, this may sound like a good thing, but in the end it is very detrimental to a relationship. Placating is defined as “giving in to another person’s demands, being overly nice, letting someone else have his or her way, taking the blame when things go wrong, or going overboard in being caring and cooperative.” (Sole, 2011) I am the type of person that is a pleaser, so let me tell you from my own perspective how placating someone else all the time can be harmful. I did not realize before taking this course how bad this really is for my own self. Now I realize that it sends out a message that does not always reflect how I truly feel. It is also the reason that my own self-worth is very low at times, and I do not reveal my true identity often. I am taking steps to not do this as often and feel better about myself. In order to do this, I have been practicing first, with my husband. Instead of just giving in as soon as a discussion begins, and telling him he is right and I am wrong, I discuss the issue with him he is right and I am wrong, I discuss the issue with him express what I really feel, and then we decide tighter what the best decision is. The most important thing to remember is to work together on a problem, or it is going to end up causing more problems in the end. The next barrier to communication is playing games. “A game is a dysfunctional way of communicating and it is a negative pattern of