The Nature of Love

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“Harry couldn’t help it, he was in love”. What does such a statement imply about the nature of love? Write an essay which argues your particular view on the nature of love and the object of that love. Limit your answer to the notion of romantic love and use Robert Ehman as a starting point.

Everybody seems to believe that love is a good thing. However, not all agree on what love is. Is love that warm fuzzy feeling a person has when they are with a familiar person? According to the Bible, love is caring in action. Love is not what we feel, but what we do; however the object of love is not defined. (Bible Gateway, 2012) In this discussion I will describe what the nature of love is based on the idea of love as a verb, as something one does …show more content…

This kind of love is what makes people want to remain each other’s good companions. For example someone high in companion love is more likely to say “my wife is my best friend,” (Baumeister & Bushman, 2008 p.306) which leads to the next idea where the notion of love and being in love have different meanings based on the expression of common phrases in society.

Love can be viewed as an object that “arises from universal human emotions,” (Baumeister & Bushman, 2008 p.204) that form naturally between two individuals. Throughout society many people argue that defining love itself is different to defining the state of being in love. According to Baumeister and Bushman (2008) it is possible to love many people but the notion of being ‘in love’ can mean something very different. Anthony Giddens and Simon Griffiths (2006) suggest this as they imply love is an experience and refer to falling in love as “something someone does without intent.” (p.204) An individual may want to experience a deeper more meaningful love when they fall in love. Ehman (1989) also suggests this as he believes ‘love is not love’ unless both lovers’ share a personal connection equally. Love could simply be ‘done’ by having a family together and therefore this brings a common thing only lovers can share where a point in both individual sides of their

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