Gender and Identity in Raymond Carver's so Much Water, so Close to Home

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Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. We've all heard the saying, but what does it mean? We are different, that goes without saying. As evidenced in Raymond Carver's "So Much Water, So Close to Home", men and women differ on many key issues of morality, perception, and judgment. The two do have something in common, believe it or not, and that is the expectation of the opposite gender to communicate, think, and react in the exact way they do. Hence, frustration. Not with themselves, God forbid the two ever see a situation from each other's point of view. The frustration is with the opposite gender, over something that for the most part, they cannot help. As we have seen time and time again and as Carver proves, it's in our blood. What …show more content…

Eventually it gets to the point that she cannot even stand to be in the same room as her husband. I personally believe that she has overreacted at this point, but that is probably just because I am a man. It is well known that woman have always been seen as caregivers. They are the mothers of our children and as such they have always had a sense of compassion and feeling towards others' needs. You can't be a good mother if you only care about yourself, after all. Carver uses the women in this story to demonstrate the difference between men and women, in terms of their levels of compassion and caring. Are all women as caring as the women in the story? Again, the answer is no. I have known women in my life who are not and I'm sure there are many others out there. Why do men and women differ in such a way? The men find a body and the extent of their compassion is to tether it to a tree and wait to call for help until it suits them. Claire, who has never even seen the girl, with the exception of a picture on the evening news, identifies with and cares so much about her that she drives 120 miles alone to attend the girl's funeral. So why the difference? In my opinion, it is a simple matter of nature. That's just the way it is, always has been and always will. Some might argue upbringing, in most cases young boys are raised in a different way than girls. This is true to some extent, boys are given a ball and taught