Essay about gender identity in our society
Shaping one to become either masculine or feminine begins at the earliest stages of childhood. Growing up, I was raised to be the most masculine figure I could be for my family. The people who influenced me the most were family members who didn’t have anything. Those with nothing were still able to make something out of themselves have a much more impact on me than anyone else. Since my family struggled as I was growing up, I was expected to take on responsibilities that would benefit the household. Being exposed to my role model’s struggles and their way of life helped me realize a little better at who I have become.
My mom taught me that women are just as capable in life as men are. The obstacles that she went through taught me that I needed to begin taking responsibility and helping the household in anyway possible. When it came to supporting the family, my mom struggled because my dad left when I was at a very young age. She didn’t receive much help when it came to responsibilities like watching my younger brothers or cleaning the house. Seeing this, I was pressured to take on some of those responsibilities and allowed me to help out in any way possible. It was expected that after I started to help around the house more, I needed to be strong and reliable for her sake. The fact that I grew up without a dad made me think that being masculine meant being able to help those in need. With my dad gone and my mom struggling around the house and support, I saw the opportunity to show how strong and supportive I can be.
My uncle was a strong male role model for me while growing up and he still is today. Nobody was really around to help me learn academically. My uncle took that responsibility and taught me everything I needed to know to get through school at a young age. Even though he didn’t have much of an education and wasn’t literate, he still managed to get me through the toughest parts of school growing up. He was the closest thing to a father figure in my eyes and just about everything he did I followed. There was nobody I could relate to except my uncle because he was also the oldest of his siblings who didn’t have a dad who was always around. He did everything he could to help out the family even when he had so little to give. Being the oldest male figure in the house, my uncle made me realize that no matter what you do, put your family first and everyone else second.
Watching television was a big part of me growing up, but not so much anymore. The shows that I watched weren’t very common for people my age, but I remember watching cooking shows that starred Chef Ramsay. A world famous chef who gained a reputation as one of the toughest food critics there is. Cooking was a feminine characteristic in my eyes because the only person I ever saw cook was my mom. After watching Chef Ramsay on TV though, that threw feminism and masculism out the window when it came to cooking. Chef Ramsay took something that I viewed as feminist and became extremely well known. He is the very reason why I love to cook and can still feel masculine about it. Watching him cook with such control and authority is what made me grow interest in his cooking. While in the kitchen, Chef Ramsay is considered one of the rudest chefs out there, but yet still one of the best. Chef Ramsay took what I saw as feminine and turned it masculine by adding control and power with how he did everything in the kitchen.
Gender roles have changed quite a bit in my lifetime. As I mentioned before, cooking was a form of feminism and was only seemed to be done so by females. Nowadays, there are both female and male chefs who have become world famous. Not only with cooking, but the roles in a household have also changed. Being a mother before was viewed as someone who didn’t work or have any responsibilities except for keeping the house clean. As of today, both men and women share the responsibilities and neither is considered more feminine or masculine based on this matter. Masculine and feminine views all depend on how and where a person grew up.